- My Transformation Journey -
Loving YOurself Isn’t Selfish:
How to Stop Internalizing Emotions and Persevere Against All Odds
This past year has really been about transformation... with me unleashing my voice and leaving a job after 13 years. I was in a very toxic environment and I wasn't going anywhere but down. I was burnt out and sick, both physically and mentally. I didn't have any boundaries in place or know what they even looked like. I didn’t stand up for myself, take care of myself or do anything to get me out of that situation. At the end of the day, it was just me. No one was there for me. No one had my best interests in mind. They only cared that I kept getting things done for them.
When I finally had the courage to leave, it was a very defining moment of releasing my deeply rooted feelings of ‘people pleasing and silencing myself’.
Once I turned that corner for myself, I wanted so many people to know how to do that for themselves.
If only someone would have taken me by the shoulders early on and said "Girl! What are you doing? You need to get out of this NOW!” I didn't have that and that’s why I support other young women who are looking for clarity, and a way to implement their boundaries.
My book title “Loving Yourself Isn’t Selfish” brings up so many ‘ah-ha thoughts’ for me. For example, I don't have to 'do for other people' in order to find my happiness. I can do things for myself. It's okay to do things for myself, and it's okay to take a break. It's also okay to say no to other people. It's not a selfish thing.
In fact, it's perfectly okay to be SELFISH for yourself. I know you’ll enjoy my story.